Adoption can be a hard but rewarding decision. Many women facing unplanned pregnancies choose adoption if they don’t feel ready to parent but are uncomfortable with the idea of abortion. If that’s you, we can help!
It’s important that you understand all of your options when it comes to adoption. As the first mom (aka birth mom), you are in complete control. You choose the type of adoption plan you would like to make. You choose the family that will raise your child and ultimately, you have the final choice whether to release your child or not. Remember, you are not “giving up” your child, you are making a life plan for them. We can help connect you to the resources and agencies you need to feel confident in your decision.
When considering adoption, there are a few different routes you can choose:
Open adoptions are the most popular today. They provide a way for you to stay connected to your child, even though you aren’t their primary caregiver. Often, in an open adoption, you will exchange full names, addresses and phone numbers. Your child will grow up knowing you as his or her birth mom. Even visits with your child are possible with an open adoption.
In a closed adoption, there is no ongoing communication with the adoptive family or your child after birth. No identifying information is shared and your privacy is guaranteed. Many women who choose this option do so because they feel ongoing communication would be too painful, or they may have a family situation that would endanger the child. Research has proven, however, communication between birth parents and child benefit everyone in the healing process.
A semi-open adoption is somewhere in between an open and closed adoption. The first names of you and the adoptive family are shared, but no other identifying information is given. Communication occurs between you and the adoptive family usually through the adoption agency or a third party. Again, you decide what type of communication you would like to have. This kind of adoption relationship is unique to each birth mom and family.
A brave choice
Remember, whatever adoption plan you choose, you are making the most loving and selfless decision possible for your child if parenting isn’t an option. Adoption is a hard choice. It will take time to heal, but no one should ever judge you for your decision.
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